Your ability to ask powerful questions vastly improves your ability to influence and persuade.
• Stop People in their tracks. Powerful Questions are outside the norm of regular conversation. They are intended to stop people in their tracks and go beyond the first thing that might come to mind. For instance, “What concerns you?” is not necessarily a Powerful Question but “What concerns you? What might be the unintended consequences of not taking action?” is one.
• Dig deeper and give time. As deeper questions, Powerful Question wade into generally unexplored territory and can take longer to answer. Expect some silence as people ponder their answers. You will need to be comfortable and let things get quiet to give the person time to consider their answer. When you do, you will often find that people volunteer information that you would have never obtained any other way.
• Propel Accountability. Powerful questions invite the other person (or group) to generate their own answers and articulate the personal benefits of taking action. When people digest reality and articulate personal answers, they are more likely to take ownership of the situation and the path forward.
• Requires Creativity – for both parties. Powerful Questions definitely encourage creativity for the person answering but you can still influence and guide the conversation by what questions you ask. For example, “How could we approach this problem” might be too broad. But “What would actually resolve this issue in the next month?” requires creativity on your part and uses constraints to guide the conversation.
• Couple with reflective listening for even more impact. The tool of reflective listening is incredibly powerful for making people feel heard, summarizing issues, and moving the conversation forward. When you couple it with Powerful Questions, you acknowledge the other person’s perspective while moving your agenda forward. For example, “I hear you saying that X has been put on several probationary periods and is still costing you a lot of time. What would your workweek look like if this wasn’t an issue?”
Examples:
Articulate Success and Building the Case for Change
Generate Solutions
Address Concerns and Roadblocks
15. How could your Strengths help you mitigate unpleasant aspects?
Building Resources and Support
16. How can I best support you?
17. Who else can or should be involved?
18. What other resources would be useful in this situation?
19. Can you identify any skill or resource gaps for you or your team?
20. What would make this easier?